I spent a whole lot of time in my own life being an enabler – helping people to stay in their doom and gloom by listening to their problems while knowing very well that they didn’t want solutions. And when I wasn’t being an enabler, I would be an evangelist, trying to convince people with really negative viewpoints on life full of doom and gloom that positivity and optimism were the way to go.
The irony: I would perpetuate negativity everywhere in my life by listening to constant moaning, I would get exhausted by it, and finally, once I recovered, I would start being so preachy with no real life example of the awesomeness of being positive because, well, I was always wasting my time being dragged to hell. So, no one listened.
If you are a person who has a lot of empathy and loves to help, I am sure this is not unfamiliar to you.
I’ve learned the hard way that you can’t really thrive in any way in life and think that super-negative friends, associates and even family can just run amok. In fact, there were a series of hard-won personal lessons I’m happy to share that may help you in dealing with your own dramatic wet-blanket people, even ones you love dearly. Continue Reading…
One of the more perplexing things I have ever heard is the idea that you can deal with terrible problems by basically filing them away in mental “drawers” in your mind. It’s as though the brain is envisioned as a massive bookshelf or bureau filled with drawers and you can just stuff things in different areas and let it be out of the way.
It’s often called “compartmentalizing.”
Have you tried it?
Have you ever tried stuffing all the mess in your house into drawers. You know, there are people who buy pretty storage baskets and “hide” their clutter and unfinished projects in these baskets thinking that by putting them in at attractive package that somehow it will magically be dealt with… Until, of course, the day you run out of space in those baskets… Or you realize you stuffed away something important, or ignored something vital because it was too overwhelming with all the junk.
Do you do this?
I have done it in the past. And the more you “file” things into these pretty bins and consider them “organized” the more anxiety builds up. Soon the anxiety leads to feeling stuck and overwhelmed, unable to move forward because there’s already so much that hasn’t been dealt with…
And that’s why this pop-psychology idea of “compartmentalizing” problems just doesn’t work.
If you’ve been sort of pushing things aside that you don’t want to confront, this one’s for you… and it can help you to free yourself fom self-destructive self-cluttering! Continue Reading…
(these abstract flowers from Etsy are awesome!)
Abstract art leaves so much room to fill in the blanks with emotion, imagination and stunning detail.
I used to aply thr same sort of slapdash improvisation to my life, hoping that in my free-for-all without any target even way out in the future to move toward that I would magically come across a meaningful and productive life.
It wasn’t as fun as I thought it would be. Abstract futures are not the most exciting…!
Think about it… if I offered you a car at a great price but was vague about the type, vague about how old it was, even vague about where in the word it was located, would you be excited about it… or suspicious?
Personally, I would be suspicious of that vague deal.
Do you think about the future and what you want to do and find yourself grasping at straws… or sort of somewhat seeing things that seem to maybe feel like they might work out?
While I like to focus on living in the right-here-and-now, there are some pretty compelling reasons to whip up a clear vision of the future. A sharp picture of a luscious future can guide you and your talent and your energy in a far more seamless way. Continue Reading…
I’m not talking about being a billionaire (though some of you might want that, and there’s that aspect of this too!) but I am talking about how much different your life would look and feel if in some ways you were free from ideas that there just isn’t enough of certain things to go around.
Do you believe you have a limited number of opportunities? Limited amount of money that will ever come to you? Limited relationship prospects? Limited ideas?
Its something I have seen everyone I know struggle with in some way- even billionaires!- and so, today, its time some expansive design ideas about overcoming scarcity.
Imagine how much more energy and time and resources you could have to both enjoy your life and help others less fortunate if, indeed, there really was enough good stuff to go around?!
And, if you want to dive in to your own personalized feng shui in a modern, practical way, Say hello to Feng Shui 101. Its the guide I made for you to create your own personalized feng shui at home, in the office, wherever you may be… in 8 weeks. It’s not filled with strict rules or what you “must” do. Its filled with information, questions, exercises and even videos and classes to help you confidently create amazing spaces with killer feng shui and live with more flow. Learn more about the 8-week feng shui adventure & grab your copy to get started right HERE… And, as always, please let me know what happens!
Yes, I love the idea of being a channel for money. But, you aren’t always on the right channel, you know?
Money. Big topic. So, here’s a round-up of some of the best money feng shui and science to help you get in the flow of cash
THIS post is all about being organized so that you can trust your intuition more.
If you are not quite sure why you can’t seem to make money even though you have such “good energy” THIS one is for you, all about how the brain works with money. Your human brain has no idea what money is, so no matter how awesome you feel its hard to “earn” money is you can’t concieve of what you are earning.
If you want some cool feng shui tips to make money that you might not have heard before, THIS video is filled with them.
And… if you are feeling like you might be cursed in a way where you chase money away, THIS is something great to try.