My experience has been that most people have a solid sense of when they are doing good for themselves…and when they are not. The tricky part is when things that are not good become a part of a daily routine, or a self-sabotage that pops up and takes over.
After spending another week in Japan at the base of Mt Fuji participating in days of ancient Nichiren Shoshu ceremonies that I’ve seen transform my own karma for years, I watched myself go trough a series of changes- some subtle and some vibrantly loud- that showed me the way I have been creating my own life in ways that don’t always help me.
Key words here: “creating my own life.”
In Buddhist philosophy that is espoused now far and wide by pop psychology and all sorts of philosophy, we create our life through thoughts, words and actions. The word used to describe this bank of thoughts words and ations is KARMA.
But, there are those unconscious cravings that seem to hijack the brain. The bad boy that you know is really not your ideal mate but you date him anyway. The junk food late at night. The third cocktail. The binges on TV. The streak of jealousy that you can’t explain and seemingly can’t control… The over-spending at a big sample sale. All this and so much more seems to feel so good at the moment yet winds up being subtle self-destruction.
Clarity can go a long way toward making meaningful changes!
Today, I thought it would be awesome to kick off a long weekend with a few ways to live with more cause over your own mind-hijacking cravings, less somewhat unconscious self-demise and a more balanced sense of confidence that you can create a life that you love! Continue Reading…
Sometimes you need to go away to see how much you’ve changed.
Given the fact that both my parents died young, I’ve had way too much luxury to complain that I have so little family.
How warped and twisted my view was!
Every time I go away to Japan, my own super-tight Buddha family expands. Every time I see my friends in New York (& LA) my deep bonds of Wellness family expands. Every time I see my oldest friends that I’ve known the longest, I am reminded that I have an enormous family.
And… every time I come to know you better, my blog family grows enormously. Some of my dear fiends started as readers.
Essentially, I’ve created a world of family, and sort of refused to acknowledge it for so long!!!
Do you have certain views that could maybe expand to encompass life in a way that’s true for you?
After my own perspective-shift, I’m full of so much gratitude…its unending!
Welcome to morning flowers at their best: deep color, fresh texture and perhaps even a bit of unusual moodiness. The shining happy daisies that sit on the side of this stand aren’t quite as beautiful alone as this mix of wildness.
These greens and flowers have an edge to them, you know? Some rich darkness is wed with almost-fireworks of furry fuzzy blooms. They have an edge of greatness.
Many painters I know hold tight to their emotional darkness because they believe it fuels their work. Becoming happy- or sober- would be the end of their art. Actor friends of mine that are long lost from my life stay on the brink of something catastrophic (financial disaster, emotional melt down, relationship fury) and proudly flaunt their darkness to have their special bit of dramaric intrigue. I know loads of professionals who party like they are in The Wolf Of Wall Street even though they’ve long outgrown the all-night parties of teen years but yearn to stay socially controversial and… interesting.
Do you hold onto problems, angst and even bad habits because they are some sort of motivation or catalyst for you?
Are you afraid that if you change too much for the better that you will lose your own edge? Continue Reading…
This is a fast track to a more artful life: love it more. Love your days more. If you just don’t love your life, its time to change that before you beat yourself up and think you have no talent or intrinsic motivation to make cool things happen. Chances are, you are just stuck. That stuck comes from not liking a lot of things around you.
If you feel ready for a big life de-clutter, you may be due for a Life Detox. HERE is where you can sign up for my free Life Detox Jump Start course. It can help you clear away some of the toxic cobwebs to create a life that is much more open and flowing! xoxo Dana
Welcome to my obsession: Aunt Peaches.
Her craft projects are off the charts. I can’t keep up with everything I want to make!
I am actually headed to the craft store for extra baubles to make these wreaths… And, thanks to her, my refrigerator is getting wallpapered, my light switches are getting customized and my centerpieces will be bananas this season!!!
While these wreaths alone are show-stopping, here are a few of my favorite Aunt Peaches home upgrades that will get your even long-abandoned craft-loving nature flowing!!! Continue Reading…
While a wide open field of limitless possibilities is my Nirvana in the land of feng shui’d expansive design that I love, it is a funny thing that happens when you walk through the day always focused on endless options. Nothing gets done. After all, its impressively difficult to make a decision when you have a zillion options to consider and, well, if you choose, then you are limiting your options, right?
One of the coolest ways that I have learned to become more creative, productive and decisive while still remembering that there are an infinite number of options: DEADLINES. Continue Reading…