Feng Shui To Create Love That Grows & Grows!

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(alicia coral)

Following a seeming parade of feng shui clients in the past two years that have mirrored one great personal realization about love- the big idea that love isn’t enough in itself to keep a relationship flourishing- put me in a mindset to figure out what was enough to keep love growing all the time.

After all, every single one of these people wanted love… and love that lasted.

I can say the same… and I’ve seen far too many times in my own life that love was just not enough.

A life filled with love is worth creating, that’s for sure.  So, I started stripping away the stuff that wasn’t love-like in my own life.

While I wasn’t expecting to find a one-size-fits-all answer to this question, I knew there was more that just the standard (and even my much more supercharged) feng shui love tips and tools and bedroom wizardry that was going to be helpful for any of us!

So… today’s feng shui is about love that is lasting (it really does exist!!!)  and how to bring more of that into your life every day! And it does work, whether or not the love of your life has arrived yet or not!

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Because I had “0” role models of lasting love for over half of my life, I searched them out in a big way, found them, and love them so much! And I’ve come to rely on them as proof that this is a real thing. Love can absolutely be a forever proposition, though maybe not in the cinematic sensibility that people in my town like to believe it plays out.   Sharing time together that’s fun, experiencing life together in meaningful ways, connecting when you connect in uplifting ways… it’s all so good!

Have that lasting love right now by bringing that connection and energy into your life every day!

Ah yes, love yourself comes first.  Not an original idea.  However, it’s a two-way street.  It seems that the common denominator in love that lasts is a personal foundation- two people with this foundation- of self love as a habit.  Meaning, you have the things you do every day that make you feel amazing and they also have that foundation for themselves, whether it’s the same or different.  If you’re a fan of finding unhappy people and sharing your happiness with them (often to your detriment), fixing them or otherwise moving out of your own wellbeing habits to pull someone up to a basic level of stable wellbeing in any way… chances are you’re not loving yourself in actions quite enough.  Or, you’re building a house of cards.

Try filling your schedule, and your home, with more nurturing activities that are practical luxuries, like the downtime to indulge in a hobby.  The rich organic bubble bath, the volumptuous bouquet of flowers… you get it. You likely know it.  And if you do it enough you’ll find that it has to come from you first.  No one else can ever bring you that foundation of self-love in actions,  and when you see someone else without a foundation of self-love in actions, you’ll be able to look further to see if this is a partner that’s ready at the moment to go the distance.

How intimately welcoming are you?  While lots of people have confused the social media realm of splashing out the details of every moment of life as a form of intimacy, eye contact is real intimacy.   And it’s something you can share with everyone in life in a bigger way.  Real connection is really vital.

THIS article said it all:

” Despite any attempts to conceal your emotional state of mind, your eyes will reveal exactly where you are at and manifest that emotion physically. This is especially true when it comes to intimacy. If you desire greater intimacy you will naturally tend to look more into your partner’s eyes. Inversely, if you are looking to create separation or distance from your partner, your eyes will naturally avoid prolonged direct contact. The bottom line here is that if something doesn’t feel right while gazing into your partner’s eyes, you both will be able to sense that there is something off in your relationship.”

Your home should make just as much eye-contact!  Meaning, does it look like a space you want to intimately get comfortable in? Are you sort of just living in your place, hoping that something better will come along… ?   Making the most of your home right now as a home is part of that intimate, self-loving stuff that doesn’t just take place in the bedroom.  Bedroom feng shui is great, but it’s not the whole thing. Caring for your whole space is a part of caring for your life.

That sense of openness and care and stability makes it so much easier to see who and what you’d like to invite into your home and life.

What parts of your life do you want to share?  What does that look like? 

If you’re into solo activities, what things do you want to share with someone else?  I started inviting clients to entertain more and more at home and pursue activities- both at home and in life- that were meant to be done in pairs like dance classes, sports teams, running buddies… you get it: non-solo.   It is brilliant.  You start thinking in terms of pairs.  You see more of what you can share meaningfully with others in fun ways.

At home, look at all the solitary stuff you’ve got happening in your space.  Solitary chairs, solitary art, games meant to be played alone… all this “solo” stuff is great, but balance it with things that involve others!

And, of course… pay attention!

There’s nothing that I’ve seen deteriorate my own relationships more than a total lack of attention.  It’s sometimes deliberate and often not… It’s staring at the phone. It’s carelessness. It’s self-created. It’s also fixable by paying attention!

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These photos woke me up to how much beautiful words can change lives.

You can start today.  Tell people they’re beautiful- because everyone’s beautiful- and you’ll see the shift around you.

If you’re starved for attention from someone you love, maybe that’s not the love you need?

Maybe it starts with more attention to love everywhere.  The details of your bedroom in a way that make you feel alive. Beautiful moments with friends. Paying attention to things around you as you drive. Seeing life with more wonder.

This is all so simple, but we’re drifting overall into our heads and away from our hearts.  There’s also a sort of collective despair that washes over people who’ve decided that if love isn’t enough… then why bother?

Because… it’s so worth it. Love makes us stronger, healthier and even happier,  And you can make it happen.  Starting right now!  xoxo Dana

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