My friends use this metaphor and it is very personal to me when talking about self-love. I always go back to the image on the airplane video before each flight, the video I never understood when flying as a small child. “In the case of an emergency, please adjust your own oxygen mask before helping others.”
As a kid, all I could think of is how my mom would 1. never follow that rule because she can’t put herself first and 2. if she did, I might not make it! I knew even then that loving herself was not a big priority for my saint of a mother, and she might be stumped as to how to actually take care of herself first if forced to do it!
Saintliness is highly over-rated. Or misinterpreted. It is not noble to give away energy that you need to survive.
It is noble to build up your energy so you can love freely and help vastly.
“Love Yourself” is a broad and general term. I see it often much more in action than just in emotion.
Breaking the bad habit of self-neglect is an act of self-love. Putting aside time for yourself. Investing in your well-being. Educating yourself. Cultivating your genius. Feeding your greatness.
And soon, loving yourself becomes less abstract and more a way of life. And that’s when everything flows…! xoxo Dana