I used to think I was an alien. I feel art before I even see it. Words move through me. I understand aesthetics in an almost surreal manner. I have dreams that are crazy wild. I have huge food issues. Gluten lands me in the hospital. If I spend a half hour with someone brutally complaining, I can cry hysterically by the end of the day. I can tolerate physical pain, but I find it impossible to witness violence even on TV. I can stand on stages joyfully , but I don’t like to be at a party in the center of a large crowd close to me. That said, I also have super-duper close relationships, and my life is overflowing, especially with creatives and artists, that I am so much in love with… My flashes of the future are 90% accurate, though only when I care about someone. I could practice Buddhism for hours a day in joy, and feel I am most “me” when I am in sacred spaces or museums.
I am a walking contradiction! But I am not an alien.
If you feel some of the same, you likely aren’t an alien either!
Turns out that I am a Highly Sensitive Person, often abbreviated as HSP. To know me, you would think I was anything but sensitive in the way I confront things in a very New Jersey-bred manner… though I absorb energy easily and I am deeply affected by emotions around me. This sensitivity is not a disorder, it is a genetic trait in almost 20% of the population and it is AWESOME. Let me rephrase that… it is AWESOME if you understand it and know how to take amazing care of yourself and protect your energy.
How Do You Know If You Are A Highly Sensitive Person?
While I learned after a whole lot of research and talk with many a therapist and healer that I was pretty much an HSP. I don’t intend for any of the information below to be a substitute for seeing doctors or licensed professionals. Rather, it may encourage you to dig deeper and seek out the experts that can guide you if, indeed, you are a Highly Sensitive Person.
THIS quiz from Oprah is an interesting introduction to the Highly Sensitive Person. It was pretty clear for me right away that I was a highly Sensitive Person when I first learned about this trait, and this short quiz confirmed it!
It also made me very excited to know that I had lots of company in the world!
Here are a few of the traits that are attributed to Highly Sensitive People—
- Extreme sensitivity to light & sound…
- Deeply affected by the emotions of other people.
- Strongly bonded to animals and to nature.
- Enormously artistic.
- Lots of allergies or sensitivities, including auto-immune digestive disorders and gluten sensitivity.
- Super-intuitive and super-imaginative.
- Alone time is key.
- Majorly in tune with your environment.
Edward Mills has a very well-described list of 23 facets of Highly Sensitive Personalities and I encourage you to read it all HERE if this resonates with you!
Just A Few Ways That High Sensitivity Can Be So Awesome…
- Your intuition is killer.
- Artistic gifts are likely to flourish.
- You can deeply experience emotion, and that is such a gift!
- Love can lead you…!
- You are more easily capable of experiencing high levels of bliss.
And A Bit Of Feng Shui Reinforcement For The Highly Sensitive:
It is not always a piece of cake to be Highly Sensitive, so its worth taking some time to reinforce your environment to support your emotional and energetic needs.
- Give yourself the time alone that you want and need.
- Learn the strengths of being sensitive by exploring your creativity.
- Have at least one big plant in your house.
- Get a pet if you can!
- Create a meditative space, even if it is a corner of a room.
- Use thick carpets to create more texture under foot if you live in a building with people above and beneath you.
- Put lights on dimmers.
- Create an energy ritual that recharges you. THIS Home Energy Makeover is a good place to start.
- Cool colors, horizontal lines and watery patterns are emotionally relaxing.
Enjoy being who you are, how you are. We all have our unique genius to bring to the world. I can’t wait to bring you so much more on this super-important subject. I bet I am not the only one who used to think I had a problem before I realized it was a gift… ! xoxo Dana
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