Are you accepting a whole lot less than you deserve? Are you settling for crumbs instead of what you truly want?
Crumbs are what I love to refer to as the little glimmers of I see a lot of people accepting crumbs of affection from their relationships. I had a friend in New York who saw her man on Tuesday and Thursdays from 8-midnight. It was more of an appointment that a relationship. They wouldn’t talk in between. I asked her why she stayed for so many years and she said “I love him,” and then admitted, ” I am afraid I won’t find something better. At least he keeps these dates.”
Crumbs. The crumbs don’t just affect us in day to day life in our relationships, the sentiment of accepting crumbs pervades our entire life. You deserve much more than that!
The brilliant medical intuitive Caroline Myss wrote in an article, “Why Do You Settle For Less?” on Oprah.com:
“But here is where this dynamic gets “spiritually sticky”: Whether you “settle” for less than you want in a relationship or in any other area of your life, the knowledge that you have compromised your heart and intuitive truth will consciously or unconsciously lead you to sabotage your own choice. If you hit your inner pause button for just a second right now and reflect on this, you will connect with the truth of this statement.”
Does that ring true to you? I certainly can relate!
Myss goes on to explain ways to distinguish between consciously choosing certain arrangements versus settling for them. The more you compromise in areas that matter to you, in ways that violate your core beliefs, the more you lose a foothold on your own powerful self. Sometimes an “unusual” arrangement like my friend’s pact with her lover in New York, are a decision that fits well into your priorities, but for her, it was a compromise based on fear. I highly recommend you read the whole article right here, and decide for yourself if you’ve been waking around making these “crumb” compromises with your heart and your passions.
Trust yourself that the right things, the right people, the right ideas will come at the right time. Don’t hold onto the wrong things because you fear the right ones will never arrive. They will if you allow them!
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