There are a litany of ways that people can literally stop themselves from living in the fullest sense of the word. I am not talking about holding yourself back from becoming a billionaire, etc, etc, but i’m sure that happens, too. On an elemental level, holding yourself back means denying yourself a happy and abundant life (a.k.a. a life you’d want to live)!
Are you holding your voice back, your creative projects in blockades, your relationships and friendships at a distance or your health and wellness at a level beneath what you desire and know that you can create? Are you super stressed? Are you always hitting a glass ceiling? Time to take a breath and get beyond this today!
How do we hold ourselves back? What a crazy big question that we can look at from lots of different angles.
I think I have committed every single self-diminishing act in the world, all in the name of seeking perfection, so I am not wholly unfamiliar to the world of ” holding yourself back.” Perfection is such a plague. What is worse: none of us will ever reach perfection in any way, as much as we strive for it!
Also, as it turns out, science has proven that “fear of success” is a real thing. Success creates a chemical rush not unlike anxiety. The out-of-control good feeling and the out-of-control anxiety feeling can be too close to distinguish, and it triggers an impulse to hold yourself back from that which you deem to be “success”. Love and hate are two emotions that are very closely chemically linked in the brain. Strange, no? I find it positively fascinating! If you get anxious just when things are starting to flow in your life, HERE is a great exercise to help you get beyond fear of success.
A need to control life and a fantastic state called “confusion” also tend to hold people back. THIS article from Psychology Today runs through eight big ways people stand in their own way. It is worth an eye-opening read.
One of the most effective feng shui ways to get past the limitations we are imposing upon ourselves in our minds is to create environments that us “out of your heads” and into the present moment. When you are present and engaged in exciting environments that make you feel energetically big it is very hard to be diminishing yourself at the same time!
Some feng shui ideas to get more present, fresh & thriving in your space:
1. Add much more art- Pop-y, splashy, engaging art- to your space.
2. Boil some fresh mint tea. Even if you don’t drink it, flood the room with mint.
3. Fill up your refrigerator with amazing food. If you are not home often, fill it with non-perishables!
4. Make a playlist that sounds like you at your very best. You know the music I mean, the songs that crack you open and help you feel as large as the sky is wide.
5. Wash the corners of your home! Corners of your home- like corners of our mind- tend to collect things that shouldn’t be hanging around. Clear them and watch the energy skyrocket!
And, if you want to dive in to your own personalized feng shui in a modern, practical way, Say hello to Feng Shui 101. Its the guide I made for you to create your own personalized feng shui at home, in the office, wherever you may be… in 8 weeks. It’s not filled with strict rules or what you “must” do. Its filled with information, questions, exercises and even videos and classes to help you confidently create amazing spaces with killer feng shui and live with more flow. Learn more about the 8-week feng shui adventure & grab your copy to get started right HERE… And, as always, please let me know what happens!