What do you do when you just feel like you are making ZERO progress in some area of life?
That question comes up almost daily in my universe.
While, of course, you can do lots of feng shui in your home to create some new perspective in your home and life, even before you start painting walls and fluffing your throw pillows, here are three questions to ask yourself that can guide you in making decisions from a new perspective. I find these questions extremely useful to see if I am ready to make a real change in my life where I am stuck. If I am, indeed, ready to make a move, these are the questions that usually set me on the road to revolution!
1. How did I create the current situation of being stuck?
If you can not take responsibility for the position you are in, you will have a very hard time getting out if it. I know, it is tempting to blame others. That woman at work was targeting you or your boyfriend was cheating and you had no idea, etc, etc. Cop to the fact that you did know what was happening and for whatever reason you decided to handle things the way that you did and that created the current “stuck”-ness.
When you blame others, you can’t really get a grip on the whole picture. Blame prevents change.
And yes, there are situations that are purely chance or accident that pop up that create havoc in our lives. How we respond to them determines if we will get stuck or not! We are still responsible.
Responsibility allows you to really learn from a situation. This is the stuff that prevents us from repeating the same things over and over again, never moving forward.
2. What am I willing to do to get unstuck?
If the answer to this question is not “anything moral and legal that can logically help me” you may not want to un-stick badly enough.
If you prefer to complain or tell people why the available options are not good enough to help you, you may not be ready to be unstuck.
The jobless woman who is also running out of money and falling into a financial hole turns down some simple part time work because it is “beneath” her might miss the opportunity to get unstuck. That friend you have who wants to use every friend as a therapist and refuses to go to an actual therapist may be holding themselves back from getting unstuck.
Of course, there are things that simple feel wrong to us… but the people who do succeed in getting unstuck tend to be willing to do just about anything to un-stick themselves. A part time job can usher in a full time job. A visit to a therapist might affirm that indeed you don’t want or need a therapist- but that action may motivate you to take the reins in your life more fully!
3. Do I need any support to get & stay unstuck?
Support groups, therapists, coaches and mentors are all very helpful to keep you from backsliding into the hole you are climbing out from. Even my dog, Bob, helps me! If you need some support, ask! Also, I suggest you take inventory of vampire people (more on this HERE) in your life so that you can keep your personal road clear of drama and challenges that are completely unnecessary.
Freedom and growth feels to good to allow yourself to stay stuck in a rut! Shake things up & stretch your life. xoxo Dana
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