A reader asked a greater feng shui question about feng shui and the bedroom following a relationship break-up:
“My ex-wife was a believer in feng shui. Me, not so much. But I am a believer in how a room’s color or arrangement can affect its occupant. Who can say our little studio’s layout didn’t have something to do with why we couldn’t connect here?
Now that she’s gone…for better or worse, I am re-decorating and re-organizing. I am thinking of buying a corner bed. It’s a studio.
Would a corner bed be so bad? I’m not wild about sleeping next to my window. And putting the bed in the middle of the room would give me full view of the exit door.”
Well, first of all, I don’t feel that anyone should be a believer in anything without experiencing it, so I welcome your question and hopefully I can shed a tiny bit of light on the reasons why I will not recommend a “corner bed.”
In my style and approach to feng shui, your home is like a map of your life. What does this mean? Essentially we demonstrate in the physical universe what is happening in our lives through our thoughts, words and actions that are mirrored in the state of our environment. When I look at a bedroom I look not only for feng shui “rules” and how they are applied, but I also look at the ways in which very specific individuals each utilize the space and how they identify with it.
I am not surprised to hear that after a break-up of this magnitude you are tempted to not just put your bed in a corner but to actually buy a bed with a built in corner: its a self-protective mechanism that essentially and somewhat dramatically states that you are not open to another person. Why? When we sleep we get in and out of our side of the bed. No one would feel comfortable sleeping while being “trapped” against the wall, needing to climb over their partner to get out. Also, “chi” or life force energy, can not flow properly when we are hemmed in a corner. So, there is a symbolic, a phycial and an energetic block involved in this bed-in-corner situation that will not really help you to heal from my viewpoint. Rather it can keep you stuck in the painful event and prevent the new from ever flowing in.
If you can’t resist the urge to have your bed in a corner, I suggest doing it very temporarily until you feel ready to be open again to relationships and a balanced life. In other words, I suggest you don’t put your bed in the corner (!) and certainly do not buy one of these corner beds!
Wishing you the best in life & love!
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