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We become used to things we don’t like as much as things we do like.  Just because we don’t want things doesn’t mean they aren’t familiar or somehow normalized.

I used to work nearly-exclusively for notoriously unhinged people, and for me, it was so easy that people thought I had a special skillset.  Yes, I did: a completely insane lot of my family and life.  It made this behavior normal; it was even sort of familiar; and while I didn’t want to be a part of the crazy meltdowns and insanity, I found myself being able to cope with it with ease, over and over again.

People are also used to: being broke, just getting by, over-giving, self-denial and all sorts of other limiting things.  We don’t “intellectually” want to experience them, but if you’re used to it, and it’s familiar, it’s not so unlikely that it will continue, unchecked, no matter how many New Year Resolutions and New Moon wish lists you make.

How can you move past “what’s normal” that you don’t want into all that abundance that’s been evading you? Continue Reading…

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Lately, my mind feels a lot like crystals. Organized, clear, shining, deliberate.  It’s this sort of spaciousness I knew was possible but couldn’t access no mater what rituals I tried.

I thought of myself as mindful, aware, “woke” and all the things that go along with having a lot of clarity.  I didn’t feel mentally scrambled, unsure or anything else that suggested I wasn’t present.

What I noticed first was that I had a hard time feeling excited about new things, even wanting to hit snooze a lot before starting the day.  But, then I noticed that I started had a hard time taking even the most well-formed ideas and putting them into action.  I was detailed, I could see everything so richly and in full color in my mind and I didn’t feel I was vague or not creative.  My imagination was really sharp…

But, I just didn’t make anything happen.

And, I didn’t know really why or how to bring this ability back.

In feng shui, it’s the “wood element” that takes you from ideas into action with sparks flying.  Some “fire element” is needed, just like in nature itself, to start the fire.

Apparently, I had no wood left in the fireplace of my life!  I burned it all in research, reading, action, thinking… and I never gathered up more of that really important energy.  I thought I did, because I could still see what I wanted so clearly…I just had one hell of a time actually DOING things.

Today’s feng shui is all about those times when you can’t quite take the dreams and move them into real life doing…!  It’s an energy adjustment that can make incredible changes, and it require no energy to do it!!! Continue Reading…

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That’s a belief, you know.  More than a belief, it’s like a theme song.

I can get only so far before things will stop going my way. 

I will never get past “X” place because it’s just impossible. 

When really good things happen, really bad things happen.

It’s the lyrics before we give up, what we tell ourselves when we’re afraid to try something new, how we hide, how we justify the drama and the downturns that seem inevitable.

If you want to get a glimpse of the theme song of your own creative blocks and self-sabotage, ask yourself what you say when things are completely upside down and you’re flipping out.

For me, it’s  “I have to take care of everything on my own!”  And…” I need to get ahead of myself!”

My sense that help will never be adequate so I have to do everything for myself and the idea that I’m always behind in my life are two things that have haunted and limited me.

Yes, I did have to do everything on my own as a kid that lots of other kids got help with.  And, yes, I did need to get ahead when I was younger so I could survive, get an education, live my purpose.

I always thought these were my strengths!

When I saw how they’d morphed into me only being able to go so far in anything before I hit overwhelm, I was astonished.

And, then there’s me, always finding a way to be “catching up” instead of far ahead of myself.

Not a mystery how it’s all related.

Awesome to see all this.

What do you scream about or proclaim in anger or cry in frustration?

That may just be the stuff that’s sitting there hoping in a develish way to be a self-fulfilling prophesy.

Just because you say it once or flip out and yell about it doesn’t mean it’s going to come true.

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So, then, what do you do with that mind junk?

Well, for starters, it’s mirrored in your home in a feng shui sense. The chaos or darkness.  The unfinished construction.  Broken things. Whatever your beliefs are, they are being shown to you in many different ways.

We’re seeing signs all the time that show us what we’re telling ourselves.

Tackle the outside– upgrade your home space and work space— and it can help life you out of that automatic fire of the same-same-same stuff.

Then there’s your lovely and complex mind.

I’d love to say there was one technique to master that mind stuff.

There are many helpful techniques, but there’s one thing I’ve found to be most expedient and easy.

Even if you hear yourself saying that same old thing, feeling like ugh and talking about your imminent failure, don’t let it sweep you under the waves by judging yourself for it. 

Don’t judge yourself for being a human being.

It’s really OK to have garbage thoughts for a few minutes or even hours (!!!)  It doesn’t mean you’ll fail at life.

We’re all negative sometimes. We’re also deeply complex and it’s a lot to expect to be able to wipe your life clean of every less-than-shining thought because it’s not “positive.”

Sure, we all tell ourselves damning and unhelpful things all the time.  I don’t know how to shut that off 1000%.  I’ve tried. I’ve spent 10 years and tens of thousands of dollars attempting methods, working harder at this than anything else I’ve every tried to do.

I now love that I can see when I’m doing shitty things to myself.  I don’t judge myself for having a bad afternoon or a mood or being really angry or frustrated or anything else too harshly.  I see it now when it happens- rather than imagining that it was “happening to me”-  because I’m no longer wishing to be “cleansed” of everything that’s impossible to erase, ashamed when I feel ugly or ungrateful or a mess or anything else.

I see it now — this wave of dark- and sometimes it gets me, starts sending me in a spiral, and when I catch it I do something new. Something else. Sleep.  Walk.  Go out.

I don’t talk about it, ruminate, keep repeating it in my mind because I’m so upset at myself.

This really helps a lot.

If I have something to heal, to address, that’s staring me in the face after a really bad day, I make an appointment, phone calls, whatever I need.

And, leave it right there. No more dragging it around, with all the guilt and stress.

We are never going to 100% erase every trace of who we were or thought or anything else.  We can heal the trauma.  We likely won’t ever release our mind of every negative thought, and I’m not sure we want to…

Work with it. Even the dark stuff.

Heal what’s unhealed as you go.  You won’t erase your past, but you’ll reshape it, lighten it and free yourself.

Let the right ways to do that find you.  In the meantime, try not to beat yourself up for having mad/crazy/bad days or less-than-shining thoughts sometimes.

Keep on living forward and aiming higher— even if you feel like a hot mess right now.  Those can be such stunning breakthrough days…!

xoxo Dana

 

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Welcome to Creating Genius!
I spent the last year creating this e-guide to balancing and unblocking life by pulling together the best of a decade of space-changing and life-shifting feng shui! It’s 50 days and 50 ways to use feng shui to shift your space and your routines to move from “stuck” to creatively inspired and alive.

Start Creating Genius right HERE!

Gather up your magic & make gorgeous dreams come true!

xoxo Dana

This one I am bold enough to say is nearly universal.

It’s something I can’t say enough about in it’s effects, but the action is so easy it’s incredible.

Shut off your phone and live your life. 

It’s pure magic what can happen. 

My friend sent me a message months ago.  “My phone has tentacles.  It really messes with my manifesting. I can’t deal with it.”

Turn out, the more her phone was off, the more magic she saw in her life.

Stubborn and full of excuses — my work is online, I need to post things, I have messages to check all the time— I let this be something to try “later.”

Later came fast.  After she said that, I started to notice how I felt after starting for five or ten minutes at a screen, and how incredibly often I was doing it.  I noticed when my mood shifted.  I noticed when I lost focus.

So, I shut off my phone at 8:30pm one night and started noticing more things.  Namely, how much time I had without looking at random posts.  How many racing thoughts I had, wanting to research things at 9pm, 10pm, what was the name of that restaurant? what was that face mask with aloe? None of it was urgent or important, it was all this mess of noise, and I had never realized my life was filled with this stuff.

How much I reached for that phone-  even when it was off – was startling.

My life was being flooded and interrupted in these little spurts I was staring at a screen.  All Day Long.

And, I noticed that I wasn’t alone.  At the grocery store.  At stop signs.  On the streets.  In meetings. So many people with eyes darting to their phone, walking like zombies. I know. I was one of them.

I started leaving my phone off much more to see where it would take me. If I wanted to use the camera, I would leave it on airplane mode.

It was the real “law of attraction.”

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Things started happening.

I had more time.  Lagging mail was opened, I started enjoying walks and seeing the beauty I missed in the city.  Things were more deeply organized, quickly.  Projects I’ve wanted to do were done easily.  

And big things started happening.  Calls, opportunities, gifts, the right ideas…

I started to become more intuitive.

My focus became so much more clear.

And I no longer felt the urgency to “check my phone” at all.

This is easy stuff.

It doesn’t take a method to do it.

I’ll tell you, the first few days were the most confronting for mw: I saw how many things I loved really weren’t getting done while I was scrolling, googling, pinning on Pinterest and watching You Tube, texting and checking things all day.   I never thought I would lose sight of things because of a little digital device, and I didn’t think I had lost sight of these things… until I stepped away.

I also saw how scattered my mind could become when I was over-indulging in this digital haze.  That was humbling and unpleasant. But, so freeing.  My mind went from a soup of ideas to a lazer beam.

This changes a lot of things, very quickly, in my experience.

If you’ve had a hard time with focus, passion or making things happen (aka, “manifesting”) it’s worth giving it a go.  Keep your phone off more.

The only thing you have to lose is the time you spend looking at random things on a screen.  The ptential gain of precious time, excitement, deep connection to life and possibly the manifesting of your dreams is pretty much worth a try!

xoxo Dana

 

P.S.: The Joy Immersion is a a month of happy-making, mirror-polishing, life-lifting and simple space shifting!

It’s loaded with lots of actions (some you may know for sure even if you’ve never fully practiced them, some you’ve likely never seen or heard of…!) that can help you detox from your own negative stuff, uncover more of your greatness and light, and see happiness everywhere you look…! There’s feng shui, there’s life-shifting, there’s lots of creativity… and it’s a daily commitment to a positive life shift… which is a positive life shift already!!!

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And you can start right HERE!

 

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creating genius creativity book

Welcome to Creating Genius!
I spent the last year creating this e-guide to balancing and unblocking life by pulling together the best of a decade of space-changing and life-shifting feng shui! It’s 50 days and 50 ways to use feng shui to shift your space and your routines to move from “stuck” to creatively inspired and alive.

Start Creating Genius right HERE!

Gather up your magic & make gorgeous dreams come true!

xoxo Dana

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The magic of personal boundaries is real magic, especially if you don’t have particulary strong boundaries right now… or you confuse having “personal boundaries” with being “walled off from life” as I used to.

“All or none” was my old way. Either I’d be extremely closed off from people- even isolated to a degree- or I’d be so available that I would be trampled on and have the life sucked out of me.

Sound familiar?

More than just that, I didn’t realize just how much I was settling for things until people started asking me important questions:

Why don’t you just move if you hate your home? Why are you putting up with this drama? Why not do something new if the old way is exhausting?

Because…. I’m just… sooooo overwhelmed….

When you’ve lost touch with personal boundaries, the very possibility that you can make changes feels slight at best. I mean, it’s so exhausting to deal with life right now… how could there be energy to make changes?!

Today, let’s look at some of the signs that life shows you where you’ve been settling, or where boundaries are slipping (or non-existent) so that, with some new decisions, things feel strong, balanced and able, at last, to change for the better!!! Continue Reading…

It’s late and I’m writing the blog now because I had to take a long nap.  Yes, I had to.  I felt really tired for no good reason and I took a really long nap.

A year ago, I’d have had a giant tea (can’t drink coffee, makes me crazy) and I’d have stirred myself into moving forward with the day with all kinds of fun motivation… even though I knew I was really tired.

Back in those days I lost my voice three times, hurt my body super-badly in yoga (yes, it’s possible) and wound up feeling like… Two years ago I couldn’t move my right arm for a month and a half due to overexertion typing with one hand (yes, it’s how I type, and I don’t know why!) so much that my arm gave out… so, clearly I had some demons to slay that I couldn’t find, right?

I mean, all these obstacles coming up while doing all this great stuff with my life must be some sort of metaphysical energy thing to solve, right?

So I found a healer that took me further away from myself, my life turned — on a personal note — upside down in a terrifying way and I got a big wakeup call.

I stopped all this nonsense, dropped all this crazy striving and here I am.  Sleeping in the middle of the day.

Hard work is awesome.  Ignoring your life isn’t awesome.

Seeing the signs- hearing the voices- following your instincts — this is a very personal roadmap to creative power and all kinds of fortune.   Continue Reading…

We hide in our own ways— not showing up to parties, not speaking up at work or not taking credit for what we’ve done well, not dressing up, saying no to invitations, isolating more… staying quiet when you want to speak.

I do have an old habit of liking to hide that pops up from time to time.  I confused it with a lack of confidence,  a need for more self-expression or boldness… and no matter what I did, it was like the glass ceiling that loomed over my head wouldn’t budge.

If you’ve been hiding out a little too much for your liking— as none of us really life to hide even if it’s familiar— you can stepping out into your light much more whenever you decide you’re ready.

So much that’s so amazing is waiting. Continue Reading…

Did you think about what you wanted from today before you jumped out of bed (or sort of made your way out of bed… or hit snooze a whole lot) and got to doing your day?

I’m not a big fan of idle wishes.

I am a big fan of deliberate creation.  Deliberate creation—  no matter how you feel, how “on” you are or what’s happening— is amazing.

It’s non-mystical. It’s not a process.

Deliberately creating always wins because it’s you being you.
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